What Affects Your Self-Esteem?

Your self-esteem is affected by countless things, but I’m going to focus on a few main ideas that affect how you view yourself the most:

1.       Puberty – As we enter puberty, our bodies begin to change, physically, emotionally, and mentally.  We begin to compare ourselves to our peers and compete with them.  You care about what others think and it becomes more difficult to let your true self shine through!  Here’s the problem: everyone changes and grows differently, so by comparing yourself, you are cheating yourself, because what might take your classmate one year to develop into, may take you three.  Accept yourself and know that you’re beautiful, inside and out!

2.       Media – It is more of an impact now more than ever, because media portrays images of women that aren’t realistic.  We see TV commercials, magazine articles, and pictures of girls pop up in our newsfeed that we think are perfect and we once again, begin to compare ourselves without giving ourselves any credit of how we are beautiful!  Keep in mind that the images you’re seeing are often airbrushed and photo shopped to create unrealistic ideas so the company can sell more products.  Don’t fall into the trap of wasting time trying to be someone you’re not!

3.       Mood – Did you ever think that your mental status could affect your self-esteem? It is probably the biggest culprit of self-esteem, both negative and positive!  Often, if you have an optimistic outlook on life you will give yourself the credit you deserve and make wise choices.

4.       Families & School – Sometimes, family members may have their own insecurities, but take them out on you or coaches want you to look a certain way for a sport.  Unfortunately, these things lead to you feeling criticized and depleted. Calmly let them know that you are your own person and don’t appreciate their constant negativity, because they usually don’t even realize that they’re hurting you!  Use your voice!

5.       Peers – It may feel like there are always certain people trying to tear you down or people who takes jokes a little too far.  Often, those people are jealous of you or don’t realize they are saying hateful things.  Just like with family members, let them know that what they’re saying hurts you and you don’t appreciate how you’re being treated.

6.       YOU – Yes, you affect your own self-esteem!  Each day, you have the choice to listen to the negativity of others or use to make you stronger!  Make the right choice and empower yourself with positive thoughts and surround yourself with healthy relationships!